People are always commiting the same mistake by thinking the world isn't fair enough for them, they need to realize that world doesn't need to be fair, the world is how it is. We need to accept this as a reality and act despite this whole thing.
Nevertheless, in my country people say "good ones will be the lasts", this saying is too right in some aspects. It doesn't mean that you need to break bad so as to be successful or anything like that, no, it means something else. Humans tend to confuse the term of "goodness" with "passiveness" and that's totally wrong if you want to achieve something great in the future. You must recognize that you need to leave behind the "good guy who doesn't bother anyone or doesn't say anything ever".
I totally know that sometimes you need to put your ego aside and return others what they have given you through the years, but, how can you help someone if you don't help yourself first?
Let me tell you something, you first need to think about your own future, and when you totally get it done, then you could help others as well.
Humanity has progressed this much so far due to the individualism of some people who did understand the meaning of thinking about their own. People who set high goals do it because they want to enjoy all the results for themselve and their family, it's plenty of individualism this fact. Many people have actually made it to look in a wrong or a bad way for others, which makes those others to think that selfishness is wrong in every aspects.
You must worry about your own goals and the way you are going to make them happen. Nobody will make them happen for you becaue nobody really has to, that's something insane to think about, some people could help you in few things but that help won't last forever. How better would be the world if most of the people were more individualistic, instead of being waiting for someone else's help.
I do trust in people's ability to stand by their own feet, but we are always conditioned by other's opinion, which pull us back to "normality". Humans need to stop being "normals" and start developing their own individualism in order to reach the places they want and achieve all the goals (big goals or not) they want as well.
Don't focus on someone else's situation, if the other person is doing well or not, get focused in your own's instead. If you aren't selfish enough, other people who actually understand this fact will pass you over. The society are always saying that you could be only good if you are selfless or detached, this is said by them just to keep weak people being weak, don't let it happen to you.
It's needed to say that ambition can't be confused with greed, I mean, you are always going to look for your own benefits without damaging other people, that is being an idiot and i'm not asking you to be an idiot, i'm asking you to be focused on your own future.
Human's mind has always worked the same way, looking for happiness. Not even a single person in this planet will ever tell you that "happiness" is not what that person looks for, everybody wants to be happy and successful. Nobody wants to live in misery, the thing is... How many people are willing to pay the price, take all the risks and make some sacrifices? There is where the difference is.
No one knows you better than yourself, and that's why you are the only one who knows what are the things that make you really happy, you don't need to listen someone else's thoughs. You are responsible for how your life turns, you and only you.
And if you're worried about being labeled a damn selfish, do not worry please. Since I've always described myself as a selfish, nobody have hated me or at least they don't have the courage enough to tell me. Even people tell me that everyone likes me and that's exactly the point I want to show: being selfish prevents you from being hypocritical, you just show the world your true face, because in the end, you don't care what they think and why that, people respect you. The only approval you only need is yourself's.
Life is really really hard, and it woud turn harder if you are carrying the desires of others.
People need to take responsability of their own acts, even if they live in poverty. I have known people who have lived in poverty, but doing a great effort they did make it possible to get out from poverty. I have also known people who lives in these kind of environment and they don't do anything to get out from it, what can others do about it? Nothing, that's their own problems. It really piss me off people who believe to deserve great thing for only living, without working hard enough to get those things, don't be one of them.
Be selfish and you will be able in the future to help other people if you want it.
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